As mentioned, I am a Person-Centred, Focusing-Oriented Therapist (FOT).
Focusing Oriented Therapy
Focusing is a skill we can learn, to get deeper in touch with ourselves. We can become more in tune with all that is going on in and around us – our emotions, our feelings, our body (self), our being. We learn to trust and accept ourselves more – our intuition, our gut feelings – to have greater compassion and empathy for ourselves.
Through this, by acknowledging and accepting (not necessarily agreeing with) our whole self, with a gentle curiosity, not pushing anything away, things (parts) can change and shift, leading us towards a greater calmness and serenity towards what’s in and around us.
Focusing is a simple yet powerful way of accessing the wisdom of your whole body. Learning to focus can be a wonderful way to grow as a person, and find out how you really feel about any particular issue or situation.
Focusing and Experiential Psychotherapy was developed by Dr Eugene Gendlin at the university of Chicago. He discovered that clients who were successful in therapy, worked on their problems in a special way, and could be identified in the first couple of therapy sessions. He also discovered that clients who were destined not to succeed in therapy, could learn to do what the successful clients did. From this research he developed both Focusing for everybody, and also Focusing Oriented Therapy.
Focusing is a simple skill, that involves you accessing the wisdom of your whole body. Your body is picking up information all the time from your environment, whether you are conscious of this or not. You can access this information through bringing awareness into your body – your heart beating, your breathing, body sensations – and testing out your goals, thoughts and ideas, to find out how your body responds to them. Focusing provides you with a tool to find out how you really feel, and make better informed and more rounded decisions.
I offer both “guided focusing sessions”, and also “focusing oriented therapy”, as part of ongoing counselling. Focusing is an excellent skill to develop, as you can use Focusing both within therapy, and also as a skill to help you deal with issues in your life outside of a therapy session.
A personal example: for years I suffered from low self-esteem. Outwardly everything seemed fine, things were good. Yet, inwardly there was something missing. As part of my training I was seeing a Focusing-oriented counsellor and in one session it just happened! I sensed, knew and felt that I am important. No more important than others, but no less either. The feeling came with such intensity that I have never forgotten it – I still feel it years later. Previously, people would often tell me positive things to build me up, which would boost me for a time. Only when the feeling came from within did any real and lasting change occur. It was through Focusing this change came.
How Can Focusing Help?
- As an aid to counselling and therapy, where you feel something may have become stuck
- With personal growth and development
- Finding out how you really feel
- Making better decisions
- Overcoming writer’s block, or other creative blocks
- As an aid to spirituality